I Want To Communicate With My Deceased Ones (Friend/Partner/Parent)
Is a common request for information on my website.
If you’ve ever lost a loved one you know how painful it is to cope with their death, and your loss.
Firstly, if this is your query right now, I am very sorry for your loss and I feel and understand your pain. I’d like to try and explain why, in my experience, and from my spiritual point of view, your deceased loved ones may not be in contact for a while. And also to try and bring you some comfort.
I tend to find that deceased loved ones won’t appear or communicate anytime soon after their passing.
Some say that it takes too much of their energy to come through, even to an experienced medium – I’m not sure that I hold with this as, on a rare occasion, I have sensed a very recently deceased spirit coming through to me within hours.
I believe I could sense them as I was able to handle their presence emotionally. The people closest to them may not have sensed them because, they were prevented from doing so, either because it would have been too much emotionally or because of the turmoil they were in.
Some say they don’t come through that quickly because they have ‘business’ or a ‘life review’ to go through first. This doesn’t make that much sense to me but depends entirely on your own belief system. You may well have a different philosophy to me and be able to relate to this and can understand that they need some time on the other side first before re-visiting.
Personally, I believe the reason that the spirits of recently deceased loved ones stay away, or at least aren’t obvious in the early months of their passing is not about them. It’s about us.
It’s for us, for our own well-being and for our mental and emotional health.
I know that’s hard to hear because we want them back SO BADLY that it hurts. You may believe that you are really ready to see or hear from them, perhaps even NEED to. But I believe spirit tend to stay away to help with our grieving. It reinforces their absence to allow us to process that they’re not going to be around any longer. That is why they often don’t come through to mediums either with a message that they are still around – it will just mess with our heads.
Think about it, have you ever tried getting over an emotional break-up while having to see your ex-partner on a regular basis? In the early days it’s so very hard. Which is often why it’s easier to turn to hating them than continuing to acknowledge your positive feelings for them and grief for losing them.
So maybe this will help instead. If they can’t be around for you, maybe I can tell you what you really want to hear.
The three most common questions I hear from those left behind, about their loved ones in spirit are:
‘Are they ok?’, ‘Do they know I loved/forgive them?’ and ‘Do they forgive me?’
I firmly believe and have found through many years of spirit communication, that once someone has passed over they most certainly know how much you loved and continue to love them.
My belief is that they become part of a large energy is unconditional love and they are no longer concerned with human emotions. They see the bigger picture. They see the interconnectedness of life and death, of everything. And they cannot help but continue to love you, to forgive you and most certainly they do not judge you.
I have to tell you that I have never known a spirit who has passed to hold on to the human conditions that we become used to. On passing they become so much more aware and enlightened, they let go of the emotional trappings that come with being human, and forgive and let go of so much that may have troubled them while they were alive.
Some other points that may help with the grieving process.
When your memories of your deceased loved one begin to fade, I really do not believe that they feel hurt by this. It is natural so that you can continue to live a life without them in their physical form. They know this, and they want you to carry on living your life to the full.
I also ABSOLUTELY 100% believe that they will be feeling loved and no hurt or pain or suffering at all.
I truly hope that this helps you in difficult times, or with dilemmas and grief that you might be facing.